>"Sorry, I wasn't interested in writing a paper with you, I wanted to touch your boobies." "We can totally work together, but lets be realistic - under other circumstances we'd totally be doing it."
>Or perhaps not continue, in the case that I want to make out and she wants me to prove theorems. Everyone's feelings might be a little hurt ("she doesn't think I'm hot?", "he doesn't think I'm smart?") but that can be solved by growing a pair.
I honestly don't understand what you're trying to say here, assuming it's not tongue-in-cheek. Your way of dealing with with the opposite sex in a professional setting is to:
1. Affirm an absence of a professional relationship
2. Presume sexual attraction, because that's just "realistic"
3. Implicitly suggest that working together is some sort of unbalanced arrangement, rather than just cooperation
4. Justify this all by the need to "grow a pair" (a great cross-gender term, btw)
Honestly, if I was one of a few men in an office and had to work with a bunch of women who operated under these assumptions, I might go tweeting about it.
If you want to argue that the "gray zone" doesn't exist, be my guest. You don't need to wildly misinterpret my proposed solution in order to suggest I'm a villain.
Just in case you honestly misunderstood, let me spell things out.
1. This is what you do when you don't want to work with them and they don't want you grabbing their ass. Be honest about this and end the relationship if necessary.
2. This is what you do when you both want to work together but also you both want to sex it up. Or you can pretend you don't and then let things get weird after a late night makeout session at the office.
3. Huh?
4. Not being a whiny bitch is what you do when someone doesn't want to go out with you, work with you, or whatever. For example the "other employee" who confessed "love" for Horvath needed to grow a pair (assuming the Techcrunch article is accurate). In situation (1), you probably both need to.
The fact is that sometimes in a professional setting, people move on to having nonprofessional relations. Sometimes desires are not aligned. When humans are involved, life gets complicated.
>Or perhaps not continue, in the case that I want to make out and she wants me to prove theorems. Everyone's feelings might be a little hurt ("she doesn't think I'm hot?", "he doesn't think I'm smart?") but that can be solved by growing a pair.
I honestly don't understand what you're trying to say here, assuming it's not tongue-in-cheek. Your way of dealing with with the opposite sex in a professional setting is to:
1. Affirm an absence of a professional relationship 2. Presume sexual attraction, because that's just "realistic" 3. Implicitly suggest that working together is some sort of unbalanced arrangement, rather than just cooperation 4. Justify this all by the need to "grow a pair" (a great cross-gender term, btw)
Honestly, if I was one of a few men in an office and had to work with a bunch of women who operated under these assumptions, I might go tweeting about it.