You are not a member of a statistically underrepresented population in software engineering, so when you decide to describe how you would feel if you were allowed to participate in an event because of your background, you should be more careful to add the disclaimer that your circumstances are not representative of these people's.

My issue is not that you chose to describe your own feelings, though I feel like those feelings are pretty banal and uninteresting. My issue is that you chose to share those feelings by reframing someone else's feelings. You would be uncomfortable. These people are not. Your circumstances are so different from theirs that we can safely assume there are plenty of valid reasons why they feel differently.

See I don't think it's completely safe to assume that the reasons are valid for one or more reasonable definitions of valid. That to me is what's interesting to discuss.

A cis-gendered heterosexual male WASP's perspective on this would still be a reasonable jumping off point for discussion to me. I simply offer my perspective as a Jew because at least it gives me some iota of room to criticize identity politics in the minds of people who believe deeply in identity politics.

I don't know that I agree, but I think if all the exposition in this thread between the two of us were captured in your original comment, I wouldn't have been so moved to reply to it.