The FM radio one was pretty interesting. They really worked out the pedagogy to explain how it works to people without a deep math background. You'll have to Google it
I mean on the opposite side no one would ever say they regret having children either. Only a monster would I guess. That does not mean life may be would have been better for them without kids.
Yes, they would. They do. People express regrets all the time, and that does not make them monsters. They are human, and as much as they might or might not love their child they can acknowledge that their life would have been easier, better, less stressful without one.
Totally agree but as far as I understood op meant about acknowledging publicly like the study in the article. I have never seen anyone openly saying they regret having kids. Particularly in the US I would challenge you to find an example.
A study would usually fall on the less than publicly end of the axis, since one's answers are anonymized, only read by the researchers themselves - no-one else gives a fuck about them, usually - and even the anonymized datasets hardly ever get published.
It's not difficult to admit "actually, I feel like I should have had kids" to a medical professional. It's even less difficult to admit it on an online form, especially one by an entity you trust - which will perforce be the case - claiming your answers will be anonymous. It's not like the general population cares that much about privacy, after all, and here they would have nothing to lose by admitting regrets about being childfree.
“In this study, we compared how much adults age 70 and older said they’d want to change something about their life — in other words, whether they had any regrets about how their life had gone. We didn’t see any difference between childfree people and parents. This suggests that childfree people are similar to others in terms of life satisfaction and often don’t regret their decision later.”
Based on people I know, especially with women, there's this weird duality of broadcasting to the world how absolutely perfect and happy their childfree life is while privately crying ugly tears about how nobody loves them and they're going to die alone.
I guess knowing a couple of people like that, it makes it difficult to believe that everyone really is all that satisfied with their life.
Admittedly, the selected sample is biased towards seemingly responsible people, and it strikes me as recklessly presumptuous to assume that otherwise responsible people tend to make such decisions with anything less then tremendous consideration. However, I have learned that HN is an extremely cynical and misanthropic forum.
>The fact you are asking should tell you something.
What should it tell me? That I want children but know I can't afford to have children? I already know that, and it's why I'm asking in the first place.
>The fact no one admits regret means someone is fibbing or you have not been looking very hard.
Two have admitted failure, which is to say they simply never found a person they wanted to have kids with. I don't consider this a decision subject to regret and neither did they.
You forgot something. Also you look foolish telling people to educate themselves on Wikipedia
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- Discrimination by law enforcement
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- Childhood exposure to violence
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- Inability to post bail
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- Socioeconomic factors
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- Housing segregation
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- Sociocultural factors
I look foolish for telling people to begin their research on a common, well-established public encyclopedia?
Do you seriously not understand that each of these issues lead to bad personal choices? Your comment does not seem to be made in good faith, and this is the sort of mentality that we as a society need to eradicate.
Forcing everyone to use wooden satellites = bad
Hopefully the policy makers will get it now...
Edit: spelling